The differences between emotional and psychological abuse, and why it’s...
One of the most common misconceptions I see online in the abuse recovery community are people posting that psychological abusers are just wounded people who don’t know any better. Victims to their...
View ArticleWhy do victims blame themselves?
It is widespread for survivors of psychological abuse to blame themselves. The abuser blamed all the relationship issues on the survivor, and it is very easy to come into agreement with a false...
View ArticleMessy Authentic Self
In this season of constantly being told to love ourselves regardless of what others think and to radically embrace our uniqueness, what happens if we don’t authentically like ourselves? Where do we...
View ArticleTexas’ Collective Trauma
My fellow Texans,This week has been horrendous. Let’s just be real. For many, it has been traumatizing and that is not being overly dramatic.We know many of you were forced to sleep in your cars as...
View ArticleStay In Your Lane
It’s frightening when someone crosses the yellow line and drifts into your lane; coming at you head-on. This can apply to driving a car or emotionally. Emotionally? Yes. There are people who don’t know...
View ArticleSometimes…
As I looked at this picture on my friend’s phone, I had the thought of “sometimes we need to put on a pink tutu and run through bubbles.” It got me thinking about some of the other “sometimes” moments...
View ArticleThings to Remember When on Empty
“It was the best of times, it was the worst of times…” – Charles Dickens Almost three weeks ago I published my first sole-authored book. The lead up to launch day reminds me of this famous quote by Mr....
View ArticleYou Just Don’t Care
When a close friend shares with you that the pastor made uninvited sexual advances towards her and you argue that the pastor is a godly man and wouldn’t do such a thing, you just don’t care enough...
View ArticleI Got A Root Canal At Church
Imagine walking into church and in the lobby, you see a sign-up area for getting a tooth extracted or a root canal. You go up to the counter to learn more and the pastor of Family Ministry says “Hi!...
View ArticleWhen A Christian Meets A Sociopath
I was recently contacted and asked to share my thoughts on how a Christian is supposed to deal with narcissists, sociopaths and psychopaths. To some it may seem like an odd request but actually it...
View ArticleA lot has changed
A lot has changed since I released my first book, Healing from Hidden Abuse: A Journey Through the Stages of Recovery from Psychological Abuse, in the summer of 2016. If we’ve been on this journey...
View ArticleI tried to be a “good victim”
I honestly tried to be a “good victim.” I truly wanted to be a good victim, but for over two years, I failed. I could see it and, worse, feel it happening in real time. Watching myself fail at being...
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